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Today we’ve got Brock Landers in the hot seat. He’s a dapper fellow with a chill relaxed vibe and some serious dance floor game skills.

Player Profile: Brock Landers

Social Personality Traits in 6 words or less…
Artist of Logic, Dancing, and Intrigue.

Goals with game?

Choice in the fact that you don’t have to settle for what just comes your way. Choice in terms of being able to pick and choose from what you want. A lot of people in life don’t have that option.

Where do you usually meet women?
My traditional background is more nightclubs. I like to dance, It’s my Latin blood. I can go to bars and stand around but to me that’s more of a lower energy environment and I don’t function at optimum levels in those places.

How you typically open up in bars and clubs…
I’m not very direct. I learned more when I got into game, more of an indirect game. I do more situational openers. So it’s been harder for me to transition into more direct game. Even though I’ve seen that it works.
I used to do opinion openers but I don’t like them, it feels like a survey. When they have situational relevance it’s stronger.

Do you have any women in your life right now?

I have women that like me, but I don’t necessarily reciprocate. I have this girl in Texas. “I miss you baby.” And this other girl who likes me a lot but she lives too far away.

At a certain point I cut things off. I’m not gonna use her. In the long run it might end up hurting her. I don’t wanna be the one that uses that to my advantage just because I want a cheap thrill.

How has your dating life improved since you learned this stuff?

I’m more aware of my surroundings. The looks that they give me. Everything. I’m more socially conscious in interactions. I’m not just shooting in the dark and seeing what hits.

The more experiences you have provide you with that awareness.

You start to see things clearer. The fog starts to break up.

Your perspective on women…

I always love women. I’m the not the kind of person who solely views them as an object or anything like that. I can appreciate physical beauty but I also understand there’s a feminine energy. It’s soft. Women equals comfort. When you’re a boy, being raised, you fall down and hurt yourself, who helps you feel better?

Beyond the sexual aspect there’s still that motherly aspect of women. They’re caregivers. You may not see it right away but all of them have that side. That’s why you should always to an extent respect them. Because it took a woman to make you. As my friend says, “Goddess Energy.”

An iconic moment that defines your game in a nutshell?

I went to one of those local PUA meetings and then we went out to this club, we couldn’t get in. We were waiting there so long, it was almost 12 o’clock. I left and met some friends at this other place downtown.

I’m gonna salvage the night.

Started dancing with this one girl, and her friends went off to get a drink. I met with them after they got their drinks and kept engaging them. I ended up making out with this girl. I ended up leaving the club with the girl and her friend, and some other guy that was trying to hit on her friend. I could have hooked up with her in the car after I got rid of the other two people, but instead we [explicit sexual details redacted - Ed]. Going from a busted night to a productive one. That was a good one.

Then one time I did direct even before The Game, with this Thai chick. I saw her outside talking on the phone. I just said… “I’m sorry. I just had to tell you you’re gorgeous.” Within a 5 minute interaction I got her number. It went on to be a pretty debaucherous sexual relationship. This girl was a freak. Hot and a freak… We went to the club one time and she wasn’t wearing panties. I knew when I got home what was gonna happen. It was awesome.

Your weaknesses?
Mine is consistency. Sometimes I’m really on. And sometimes I’m weirdly off. Keeping that strong inner game is what I need to work on. Where when you walk into set you’re a god. You can’t just say that to yourself, you have to believe that. Any doubt is gonna be sensed.

Your strengths?
I’m pretty laid back for the most part. I’d say my dance floor game is the thing. Before the game that’s how I picked up girls, on the dance floor. Just the physical, afterwards there was the talking.

Brock’s biggest weakness I’ve seen is inertia. If he’s not on when he gets there, it takes him a long time to get ramped up. Getting to the place late doesn’t work all the time. He can also be too logical sometimes and get caught up in his head. (Getting There Early helps!)

His greatest strength I’ve seen is dance floor game. I’ve seen him pull girls from large groups on the dance floor and make out with them before the group even knows what happened.

This week’s Player Profile is Johnny Rocket, a guy with great game who’s dating a stunner (I know because I pushed him to approach her one night instead of approaching myself, still kicking my own ass on that one!)

Player Profile: Johnny Rocket

Social Personality Traits in 6 words or less…
clever spacey intellect, dripping with charm

Goals with game?

I like being the social guy who can talk with any woman I want and have absolute ease in social situations. I can use those skills throughout life in my day to day interactions. When you go out to clubs and face these social situations where most guys are so scared they want to shit their pants, and then go to a house party, it’s so easy. There I can talk to anybody and now I’m the social guy.

As far as an ultimate goal, I want to meet a really awesome woman. Ultimately I want to be monogamous. But I don’t want to feel like I had to settle. I want to choose who I want to be with.

How you typically open up in bars and clubs…

I usually open situationally in bars and clubs. Here’s an example. The other night we were walking to this rooftop patio at the club and it was this big cloud of smoke. So I said to the girls, “Isn’t it ironic that you go up here for fresh air and it’s a smoke cloud.” They laughed and the other girl got really into it.

Potential cause of the problem.

Lately I’ve been mixing it up. I mix opinion with situational. So I’ll ask them about the environment. I’ll see some girls on the edge of the dance floor and I’ll open them in mid-conversation.

Do you have any women in your life right now?

Just one.

How has your dating life improved since you learned this stuff?

I dated more girls this year than in the past few years. For one and a half months I’ve had a pretty stable sex life. I completely attribute it to going out and trying. I never had people that were like-minded to go out with. It’s tough when your whole social circle is afraid of meeting new people.

Your perspective on women…

Complicated. There are lots of different layers to women, layers of interaction. I’ve had lots of great times with them. Whether it’s a casual flirt, short fling, or something deeper, you can learn a lot more about yourself and experience some great emotions with them. Women want to feel good and they want a man that makes them feel good. They don’t want to meet a man that’s going to hurt them. It’s tough for them if they’ve been hurt before.

An iconic moment that defines your game in a nutshell?

At a club I opened up a hot foreign girl. I did like a playful cold read on her. It looked like she was playing hide and seek, so I went into a fun playground roleplay. She didn’t know what tag was! So I told her and then we played a game of tag. She grabbed my chest hair so I grabbed her chest back!

She said that her friends said later, “what if he’s a serial killer?” My first text to her was hey it’s your playground romance. Tag you’re it. She was into that. Her friends didn’t approve of me, but I texted her in a creative way that she liked.

Some of your best tips on game, from your experience?

Knowing how and when to qualify has been huge for me. I’d say it’s crucial. It’s the top thing on my mind. Don’t forget to do that because you have to at some point. Also having the abundance mentality helps a lot. Not being driven by the outcome and having more fun.

Self-reported greatest weakness

I don’t feel like going direct is consistent with myself. I also have a problem with cranking up the energy, and sometimes I can feel like I’m too high energy. I can go on auto-pilot. I’m starting to see patterns when I go out now though.

Self-reported greatest strength

I’m comfortable with escalation, and I have a good lifestyle. I also have a good attitude about this whole game thing. Grounded expectations. I don’t take things too personally.

Observed weaknesses

I feel like Johnny’s main problem is related to his greatest strength – he gets into “friendly” mode very easily. He would do much better if he added a little extra seductive edge to his interactions. (LoveSystems Instructor DaHunter’s gold sexualization technique – Sexual Hoops)

Observed strengths

He’s very friendly and laid-back. I’ve gone out with him a few times and hot girls get very comfortable around him fast.

Good evening and welcome to our Real PUAs series, where we track down PUAs who are good at game and find out their secrets of getting girls. You can’t put numbers on this – it’s just a pure description of game.

Before I officially launch the player profiles, I’m going to subject myself to the same process the other guys will go through. Sort of like how all cops must get tased before they can carry a non-lethal piece.

Like this. But intentional.

Player Profile: Wrabbit

Social Personality Traits in 6 words or less…
smartass frat-boy Renaissance geek

Goals with game?
I’m looking for my dream girl, and along the way I want to have a lot of wild and crazy adventures.

Where do you typically meet women?

I’ve done some day game, but it’s mostly lounges and clubs.

How you typically open up in bars and clubs…
Most of the time I’m too lazy to think of some line, so I usually keep it simple. If it’s one or two girls I’ll be direct most of the time. If it’s a larger group I say whatever comes off the top of my head which usually ends up being entertaining in a really dumb way. At least to me.

Do you have any women in your life right now?
Yes I do. I’ll leave it at that.

How has your love life improved since you learned this stuff?
Looking back it’s been a pretty dramatic change, though it took a few years and I didn’t notice at first. Keeping a journal helped me track how dramatic the change was.

Your perspective on women…
A lot of guys see this pick-up thing as a battle or some kind of war. This is a big WTF to me. The girl wants sexual intimacy with someone she desires just as much as the guy does, it’s just society or circumstances that subvert this from being expressed. It’s anything but a conflict, it’s about building up something positive with someone who really just wants the same thing. And banging them utterly senseless.

An iconic moment that defines your game in a nutshell?
I once met a girl who made every sentence out of her mouth into a challenge. She wouldn’t believe anything I said. I bounced it right back at her without batting an eye. We dated for a few months.

Some of your best tips on game, from your experience?
Read this blog dummy.

Self-reported greatest weakness

Look! A squirrel.

I’ve got a very short attention span when it comes to women. If a girl isn’t into me fast, I’m out like lightning. This is good on some levels, but I take this to an extreme. My “slow burn” game (a Braddock specialty) suffers as a result, and there are many times where I could have built a connection with a top quality woman if I had just put in more effort and taken things slower.

Self-reported greatest strength
When I’m ON, I can tease and banter with the best of ‘em.

(OK so this is the part where I’m supposed to give my observations of the player in question after seeing them in action. Since I’d rather not try any fake pseudo-third-person mental wanking, I asked a friend to evaluate me here. Here’s what he said)

Observed weaknesses
“[One night] we went out with 2 girls at this club. It seemed at times he was pretty aloof to the girl he was interested in. That came off as weird to them or a bit awkward.”

I was losing interest in that girl. See what I mean? That’s also a hazard of my style of game, as my friend describes:

Observed strengths
“He seems to have a very relaxed demeanor in set. It seems to be very cool calm and controlled. Other people do really high energy stuff and want to be the center of attention. But it seems like his approach is more low-key in general.”

You don’t have to be super-high-energy party guy to do well. You can get a girl engaged in the interaction with normal conversation, spiked with game here and there.

“Dating is  boring. The pattern of interaction or VIBE is normal… normal… normal… SPIKE… normal… normal. It’s not SPIKE SPIKE SPIKE SPIKE like a lot of the internet material would have you believe.”
- Braddock

“He seems very confident going up with the approach. He seems to not really care one way or the other if he gets a negative reaction. It’s good to not feel like you need to be validated by the outcome.”

A lot of this is because I’ve taken Braddock’s advice on Approach Anxiety to heart, especially where he quotes Jim Rohn:

“We suffer one of two things. Either the pain of discipline or the pain of regret. You’ve got to choose discipline, versus regret, because discipline weighs ounces and regret weighs tons.”

“I’m also seen him go direct before. And I think that that’s a strength to be able to pull that off and do that in a relaxed manner.”

Direct game is high risk, high reward. It takes confidence to do well but it’s great if you’re in a rush, and as Jeremy Soul teaches, perfect for day game.

That’s it for our first standard Player Profile… look for more coming up!

(Originally written in October 2009 – but still fresh!)

I highlight some guys I know who grew up naturally gifted around with women…

This is part 2. (Read Part 1: The Social Ninja here)

Is there even a market for dating coaching in South America? Because every South American guy I’ve ever met has been cool, laid-back, and incredibly good with women. The perfect example? Andre.

Last known picture of Andre.

Andre started clubbing in Rio at the ripe old age of 15. He told me once, “In Brazil man, when the club closes at 2 A.M., you go to the club, they close at 6am. Then you go to the club, they close at 10 A.M., and you party all night man.”

His philosophy on life, no matter

(Direct Day game credit Love Systems instructor Jeremy Soul and approaching mixed groups credit Vercetti)

Anyway, uh, back to Andre -

Andre’s philosophy on life, no matter how fucked up your day is going? “RELAAAX man, relax. Have a beeeer. I call some strippers man. I know these girls they work at the tanning booth man I know some hookers. They come and party. Relax.” He’s somewhat tall and decent looking but he’s not a model by any means. It’s all charm.

ANDRE’S GAME IN A NUTSHELL

I’m at a house party where this hot blonde is quite literally surrounded by dudes. They sit on couches and chairs in a circle around her and compete for her attention.

Andre opens the door, walks in, glides past all these college studs, reaches down, strokes her chin, and says in his thick Brazilian accent – “You have… the most… beautiful… eyes…”

She gets up, mesmerized as Andre takes her hand and walks her outside. The guys go silent.

Instant makeout.

5 minutes later I get a text. I hand him his keys and he takes her home.

WHAT DID I LEARN FROM HIM?

After a party I’m hanging out with a few friends at Andre’s place. My friend’s roommate who’s Woody-Allen-neurotic starts the “this one girl” speech. “She just broke up with her boyfriend, and I want to have sex but I think she’d rather wait, we kissed last night but I wasn’t sure and blah blah blah” and so on, explaining this whole complicated situation to Andre for 10 minutes. And what does Andre do? He listens. He nods. He mulls it over and sips his beer. And right away I can sense that something profound is about to happen.

He pauses, sips his drink, and begins speaking.

“JUST FUCK HER man!”

The moment you start overthinking, remember the words of Andre.

POSTSCRIPT

I wrote this back in 2009. Eli stayed back home when I moved cross country. We’re still in touch. He’s got a girlfriend now but he maintains his mojo by going out constantly and charming every woman in sight. I hope he makes it out to LA soon.

I lost touch with Andre after he moved to the Deep South and, apparently, got married. Looks like the legend has retired…

Along the path to social mastery I’ve made some friends who are true naturals with women, and I’ve learned lots from them. First off is my best friend – pop-locking, graffiti painting, MMA fighting Eli.

(This is Part 1. Read Part 2: The Brazilian Legend here)

THE SOCIAL NINJA

This is a guy who reads people well enough to get 30 second makeouts with hot women. He’s wild and goofy (and goofy-looking), but deeply spiritual and grounded at the same time. He’s also a natural leader and a social ninja. (he once took over a whole club in 45 minutes. His secret? A clipboard.)

ELI’S GAME IN A NUTSHELL

It’s late, I’m driving, and Eli’s cracking me up by doing the pervy old man voice from Family Guy. We get to a dive bar and he plows through the crowd towards the dance floor. He dances with a hot skinny blonde and she turns her back to him. So he bends over, sticks his head out and motorboats her BUTT.

(Disclaimer: The following technique is performed by a professional. Don’t try this at home kids)

She turns around mouth agape and slaps him HARD.

He says “that was niiice” and SLAPS HER BACK.

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Makeout!

wtF?!??!

Eli gets away with EVERYTHING. He’s the kind of guy that tells his coworkers how great their tits are and they LOVE him for it.

Oh and his phone game is off the hook. Though it helps that he practiced “phone game” 40 hours a week for years in sales, where he regularly got phone numbers from hot high-status women (all while being monitored for propriety).

ELI’S DANCE FLOOR TIPS

The patented Eli Butt Bumpâ„¢

1. Get behind her
2. Turn around
3. Stick out your ass
4. Shake your booty
5. Yell out “WOOOOOO” cowboy-style and rub your wiggling ass on her

Every girl’s reaction to this? She laughs her ass off. This dance floor technique is solid gold. It takes BALLS, and it shows that you’re a fun goofy guy who doesn’t give a damn. It only works 95% of the time for me since I’m not the man who invented it… Eli’s batting average with it is 1.00. PROTIP: Try not to knock her over with your butt-thrust. Sending her flying ass over teakettle through a crowd of drunken strangers may, in fact, hurt your game.

*BONUS* CLUB DANCE ROUTINE – The Eli Pick-Up Spin

Here’s another money technique brought to you by an expert at throwing people’s weight around (Eli does MMA after all). This is a ballsy move, so if you need to guarantee it will work beforehand, use a compliance test courtesy of Love Systems Instructor Keychain.

Now with with Keychain's Masterpiece Original Sauce(TM)!

Give it a touch of KC’s Masterpiece: raise your arms, palms skyward, and tell her “Arms up!” If she raises her arms with a big smile and/or raises them enthusiastically, you are GO for launch.

1. Give her a bear hug
2. Pick her up with both arms
3. Yell out “WOOOOO” cowboy-style and spin her around

WHAT DID I LEARN FROM HIM?

Eli took me under his wing when I was a scrub way back, when I was still torn up over losing a girl. He pointed me in the right direction, helped me grow ever since, and for that reason I believe if he ever decides to teach dating, he’ll be one of the best in the world. But I digress…

(Continued in Part 2: The Brazilian Legend!)