Why PUA Websites Always Attract Some Assholes
There are numerous underground dating websites. If you go check them out, some part of you might think: skeevy. And in some ways that’s true. They’ve got public forums where people sometimes post comments that are bona fide skeevy or just plan mean. But this has little to do with the nature of pick-up; it’s just human nature. The asshole factor will always exist. Here’s why.
Asshole Fact #1: Any population of guys will always contain a small sample of assholes
All right. Let’s take a totally random crowd.
Let's play 'Where's Guido?'
Sure. No assholes yet. But let’s look closer.
Closer...
Closer...
wait for it...
ok maybe this isn't...
ASSHOLE! Oh shit!
From this I conclude that any sample of dudes will contain a minimum of one asshole. Still not convinced? Hell just watch some TV.
Chuck
John Casey
Hot damn, the first episode he almost blew the main guy’s brains out. Perfectly innocent dude. What a dick.
House
Don’t know who I’m talking about? Watch 30 seconds of the damn show.
Community
Jeff Winger
He’s a lawyer. Speaking of which -
Every Legal Show Ever Made
ASSHOLES!
Every Wall Street Movie Ever Made
ASSHOLES!
which brings me to my next point -
Asshole Fact #2: When you gather up a big group of dudes, testosterone outs every guy’s inner asshole to some degree
Exhibit A
Exhibit B.
Exhibit C.
Asshole Fact #3: Like anything else, some guys nerd out on seduction and become weird assholes
The internet proves it. Like Rule 34 for porn, if it exists, someone’s OBSESSED with it. Pick-up is no exception. You’ll see a personality type that’s obsessed with slicing every human interaction into every quantifiable detail (one that I call the Wile E. Coyote in my Looney Tunes Guide to PUA Personality Types). Some sad news for you fellas… turning interactions into scripts is not possible. Sorry. Are you prepared for a -
Girl you just met responding to everything you say with “I don’t believe you”?
24-year-old girl’s MOM showing up at the bar and cockblocking you?
New girl who calls you after ignoring you for 2 weeks asking “I’m in town with my girlfriends what are you doing” at 10pm on a Saturday?
All of these things have happened to me. No I didn’t have a contingency planned. Yes in the end I got the girl, because I made a conscious effort to be adaptable.
There will always be a contingency and if you don’t plan to ADAPT, your whole structure will come crashing down. The only way to build up adaptability is EXPERIENCE. Find out what happens for yourself. And question everything you read (Love Systems Director Savoy on questioning everything), while never taking any of it too seriously.
In the end, PUA instruction is like firearms instruction
The stakes aren’t life and death, but they’re important regardless. PUA websites provide tools that can be used for good or ill. Men will ALWAYS seek tools to improve their odds with women. Guys are horny. It’s how they work. These places can provide training and encourage good behaviour, but in the end, each man’s gotta carry his own piece.