How to Keep Your Girlfriend (and Your Mojo)
So many guys end up in a relationship and what happens? She gets bored. Loses interest. Bangs the Dallas starting lineup AND the second stringers.
If it's these second stringers? Totally cool.
Sometimes you gotta do the unexpected to keep your lady into you. One big fat unexpected example: keeping your mojo.
Mojo is your sexual desirability to other women, and to maintain it, you gotta flirt with other women. The keyword here is “flirt”, not “make out with”, “fingerbang”, etc. You’re not doing this to make your girl jealous (so don’t do it in her face). You’re doing this for the health of the relationship.
Why does this behavior help the relationship?
Both parties must stay desirable or someone’s gonna lose interest. Much like men are hard-wired to love a woman’s “assets”, women are hard-wired to desire a man who is desired by other women (“Pre-selection”) and even in a relationship this never goes away. The lady’s gotta stay in shape. And the man’s gotta keep his mojo.
A man without mojo is a man that will soon be single, if he isn’t already. Any time you’re out of the game, your mojo fades. It’s like a muscle. If you stop lifting, you’ll lose strength, so working out is a lifelong pursuit. In the same way, if you stop flirting, you’ll lose mojo, so mojo maintenance is a lifelong pursuit.
What causes mojo decay?
Actively attracting women is a complicated skill set. And like other skillsets (other languages, playing an instrument, drunk driving) if you stop practicing you’ll get sloppy, no matter how good you are. Even Miles Davis lost his musical mojo when he took a hiatus. Stop practicing flirting long enough and you’ll start forgetting it. It sneaks up on you… you’ll be running out of things to say (5.0 on what to say next), then you’ll get major approach anxiety again (dealing with approach anxiety by Daxx). Then all of a sudden it’s summertime and holy shit! You haven’t left home to socialize in two weeks.
Relating to people is something most of us do every day, so that skill has little risk of fading. Relating to desirable women is not something we do every day, so it’s easy to forget.
The good news is…
It just takes a little effort to “re-activate” dormant skills (Languages for example). It’s the same for pick-up. Give it a few weeks to kick-start your mojo. Just go out and practice like you’re single, schedule a few nights out with your boys (if your lady won’t let you do this you’ve got bigger problems my friend). If your relationship is monogamous, don’t cheat. Just soak in some positive female energy and bask in your newfound mojo.
[...] Despite what some critics of PUA stuff think, not every guy into game is a womanizer. A lot of them are seeking stability in their love lives. But be aware that in today’s dating world, absolute relationship stability is a myth. Yes, even if you’re married. You gotta stay on your toes gentlemen if you want to keep your woman. How so? By staying desirable! (I’ll provide tips on how to stay desirable to your girl in an upcoming article [Keeping Your Mojo.]) [...]