Just heard all the buzz about these FuelBand things facebook. This gizmo would be a GREAT conversation starter for a PUA. Wearing this implies that you have an active lifestyle. Makes you seem more interesting. Check this thing out:
Travel, Flagging and PUA blog, Around the world trip of 3 years while picking up 80 girls along the way. Fun, drama and insanity guaranteed. Around The World In 80 Girls is a post from the SeductionList the number one PUA Directory.
Around The World In 80 Girls is a post from the SeductionList the number one PUA Directory.
Here’s some advice from Dan & Jennifer about how to pick up 10′s, the absolute most attractive girls.
Know who you want to be and be that man. Do npt try to be someone else, and don’t put yourself down for being who you are. Take pride and have confidence in yourself, because chicks who are really good looking are confident too. If you believe in the product you’re selling (which is yourself), girls are going to want to buy it. You’ve got to believe you have the ability to approach and date ANY girl you want, or it’s just not going to happen. If you truly believe that you have a lot to offer any girl, your confidence will allow you to do just that – and then you’ll have the pick of women in the bar or wherever else you go to meet girls!
A common misconception about dating is that if a guy is shy, or is a “nerd” that he can’t be good with women. Quite the opposite is true – ANY guy can learn to be amazing with the ladies. It doesn’t matter whether or not you’re the most attractive guy in the room, because honestly, even some of the best pick up artists aren’t underwear model material (far from it). If you think you’ll never be great with ladies because you’re “average” looking or for any other reason, you’re really only limiting yourself. Shed the negative thinking and have the confidence to know that you CAN learn to be great with women.
Be the cool guy that other people want to hang around. Work on improving yourself and have goals and a game plan. Don’t get caught up in faking it, using the right “pick up lines” or any of those “dating tips” that rarely ever work. It’s all about believing you have something great to offer (because you really do) and knowing that you can have any woman you want!
Again, you want to stay away from any dating props or cheesy pick up lines. If it’s not authentic, women are going to smell it from a mile away. There are no magic “lines” that will instantly make women attracted to you, nor are is there anything else that will help you ask a girl out. You’ve just got to build that inner confidence and start putting yourself out there!
What you do want to do is be personable – be friendly, funny and be yourself! Don’t try to be a guy that you think women like, because that pretty much never works. Also, don’t be afraid to consider getting a dating coach. People pay personal trainers all the time to help them to work out and lose weight, a dating coach goes along the same lines – you’re having someone help train you to get the women you desire! If you don’t want a professional, enlist one of your friends (that also happens to be good with women) to help you through the process.
While looks certainly aren’t everything, if you consider yourself to be a “3,” you’re never going to get the hottest woman. So implement a game plan that allows you to work towards becoming the kind of guy that other women see as a “10.”
It’s not always about “getting a number” or meeting the girl you’re going to have a long term relationship with or even marry. Have fun dating and meeting new women – it doesn’t always have to go someplace. Also, don’t focus so much on meeting girls, but also meeting new people in general – make new friends and find people who have similar goals. If you currently have friends that aren’t supporting you or are bringing you down, it may be time to get them out of your life and make friends that help lift you up and help you meet your goals.
Finally, you want to make the decision to become good at dating. Make the command decision to learn what you need to do to become more confident with the ladies and just do it. Put yourself out there and if you have the confidence, chicks who are a “10″ will flock to you!
Dan & Jennifer have a good article up on their blog about 5 techniques you can use to banish people from your life who keep you down and spread negativity like a cancer. Check it out…
Negative “energy vampires” are not living a life full of happiness and success, yet they will happily drag you down to their level unless you escape their clutches before it is too late!
Use these 5 basic guidelines as an outline that will help to safeguard you from negativity, and will also help you to identify negative people so that you can remove yourself from their sphere of influence.
Once you have internalized not practicing the following unsuccessful habits, you will suddenly start noticing people in your life who consistently practice them on an almost daily basis.
1. No Gossiping
It doesn’t matter how justified you think you are in talking about other people’s perceived shortcomings, doing so will never serve to bring about positive results.
When people do things that you don’t agree with or that you don’t understand, all that demonstrates is that they do not see life in the same way that you see it. It doesn’t it make them a bad person, it just means that their understanding of any given situation is different than yours.
Granted, in many circumstances it may seem painfully obvious that someone could have handled a situation in a more positive manner. However, even if that is the case, rehashing the details with other people will only perpetuate the negativity.
In addition, many people thrive on discourse and chaos, so by participating in negative discussions about others, all you are doing is indirectly giving people permission to continue adding fuel to that fire. When you are seen as a “negative fuel source,” you will invariably find that people will continue stopping by to get a fill-up!
2. No Whining or Complaining
Let me ask you this: Does whining or complaining about any given situation actually do anyone any good whatsoever?
I’m not talking about constructive criticism, learning from our mistakes, or recognizing pitfalls so that we can avoid them in the future. No, I’m talking about when a situation is already clearly less than desirable, yet you continue to talk about how undesirable it is!
When the office thermostat is broken and it is cold as a deep-freeze in your building, will anything be gained by continuing to repeat the obvious? If your spouse or significant other is being (in your opinion) unreasonable, are you going to gain anything by constantly spouting off about how upset you are about the situation?
Complaining accomplishes absolutely nothing other than drawing attention to an already less than favorable set of circumstances. If something is worth complaining about, then it is also worth taking action on. Stop whining, and start taking action, because if you don’t, all of the whiners and complainers will crowd around you in order to get their negativity fix.
3. No Co-Dependency
All of us have friends, family members, or co-workers who bring real-world negative issues to us, and ask for our input. Sometimes they are looking for advice, while other times they just want to “vent”.
In either case, however, pumping up their already negative point of view by agreeing how terrible any given situation is will only serve to cement in their minds how terrible that situation is! In addition, you will be sending them the clear signal that you are willing to be a sounding board for their complaints in the future.
Rather than rallying the forces of negativity in order to combat someone’s issues, instead just provide for them a calming, reassuring voice of reason when their lives are in turmoil. Don’t turn your back on them, but don’t fuel their point of view that they are the “victim” either.
Instead, listen with a compassionate ear while keeping your own feelings in check. You will do them much more of a service by helping them to find a positive spin on their situation rather than becoming a participant in their negativity.
4. No Cross Contamination
It is impossible to swim in a river full of muddy water, yet still be able to get out of that river without a speck of dirt on you. The only way to avoid that dirt – or that negativity – is to refuse to take a dip into that river in the first place.
From an emotional standpoint, it is not possible for you to participate in negativity, and then go back into your positive bubble without dragging some of that negativity in with you.
Most people would say that it is not possible for them to completely avoid negativity, and I would tend to agree. However, just because you are physically present in a situation does not mean that you need to actually participate on an emotional level.
You can be involved in a discussion or in the resolution of a negative situation without allowing your own emotional set point to drop down to a less-than positive level. When life throws negativity at you, stay in the game, but practice equanimity in order to handle the situation without allowing the negative vibrations to affect you on an individual level.
5. No Being “Holier than Thou”
After finding all of these great ways to recognize and avoid negativity, it becomes very easy to think that you are somehow “different” than everyone else. You start to feel “enlightened” and you recognize how a large number of the people in your life are on planes, trains, and automobiles that are all headed in the wrong direction.
Here’s a clue: get a grip on yourself! You are no better, nor any worse than any of those people. Those people are neither better, nor any worse than you.
The only difference between the “enlightened” you and the people who practice negativity is that you see things from a different point of view than they do. It is not appropriate for you to try to force your way of thinking onto those people, and in most cases it is also quite impossible.
By running around life with an attitude that you are somehow better than other people, all you will do is serve to alienate most of the people around you. Then, before you know it, other “holier than thou” individuals will start to flock to your side. Then all you will have accomplished is serving to divide your circle of influence into people who live on the “right” or the “wrong” side of the tracks – from your point of view.
Conclusion: By following guidelines similar to the methods that you just read, and by practicing the fine art of being positive, you will begin to enjoy your life and consciously create it to be whatever it is that you want it to be.
That’s the prize.
However, be advised that these success habits are just that – habits. Only practicing them when it is convenient for you to do so will only bring about positive results in small doses. Consistency is key.
Also, be prepared to burn some bridges in the process. Right now in your life there are probably people who will fade away completely when they realize that you will not be participating in their drama anymore.
The ladder of success is never crowded at the top!
These are some good tips to keep you feeling positive and focused on positivity. If there’s one thing I’ve learned, it’s that being positive is an incredibly attractive trait in any person, and you can’t go wrong with filling your life with good, positive habits!
A new article in Time talks about how girls who take Birth Control Pills have less sexual satisfaction, but more committed relationships…
Good news and bad for girls who take the pill: new research finds that those who meet their partners while taking oral contraceptives report less sexual satisfaction in their relationships — but they’re also less likely to split up.
A study of 2,519 mothers, mainly from the U.S. and Czech Republic, found that those who met their first child’s father while on the pill were less sexually satisfied with their men, less attracted to them and experienced greater sexual dissatisfaction over time, compared with girls who weren’t taking birth control pills.
But they also reported greater satisfaction with other aspects of their relationships, including the financial support provided by their mates, and were about 10% more likely to stay together. (If they did break up, the split was around 10% more likely to be initiated by the woman than the man.)
So, how could the pill possibly affect mate choice? It comes down to chemistry.
The researchers had previously discovered that girls’s menstrual cycles affect the types of men to which they are most attracted. Part of having “chemistry” with someone is liking his smell, which is determined in part by an immune system molecule called MHC.
People tend to be attracted to partners with MHC types that are dissimilar from their own, probably because this would give their offspring a greater chance of survival by creating a diversified immune system. The pill, however, puts the body into a hormonal state similar to pregnancy — and pregnant girls tend to prefer MHC scents that are similar to their own, probably because this would make them feel safe and comfortable around supportive relatives.
That means that if you’re taking the pill, you may be more likely to find attractive men whose MHC is similar to your own — but during your regular cycle, these men might seem less your “type.”
Indeed, during their most fertile phase, girls tend to be drawn to more dominant, masculine men who are more likely to be unfaithful. In contrast, during the second part of their cycle, when they could already be pregnant, they are more attracted to calmer, more nurturing types.
So, basically, meeting while on the pill might make you choose a “dad” who may not be the most exciting guy, but who will stick around and support the kids. Conversely, meeting while not taking birth control pills might make the bad-boy “cad” seem irresistible.
Of course, there are many, many variables involved in choosing a partner and the influence of taking the pill is not huge. It’s possible that other underlying factors actually account for the differences between pill users and nonusers, perhaps related to their decisions about contraception and attitudes toward sex. The researchers tried to control for these factors, however, and still found that the effect persisted in two different countries.
Lead author Craig Roberts of the University of Stirling in the U.K. told the BBC: “Choosing a non-hormonal barrier method of contraception for a few months before getting married might be one way for a woman to check or reassure herself that she’s still attracted to her partner.”
My guess, however, is that if you are that concerned about your relationship, you might have other issues to work out before booking the caterer.
Dear Speed Seduction® Student,
I believe that a combination of orientations, practices and insights are a big part of making mastering seduction mean a lot more than getting good with chicks. I believe it makes it about a radical act of personal rebellion against your own patterns and a beautiful and ongoing practice of personal design and choice, to become the man you’ve always wanted to be.
In this video, I talk about what it really means to be dominant with girls. And remember, being able to be as comfortable being dominant and aggressive as you are devoted and adoring is a key to being wildly attractive with girls…
Before You Even Open Your Mouth And Before You Even Master The Speed Seduction® Language Skills
Here’s that clip. Tell me what you think:
Peace and piece,
RJ
P.S. This is just a sample of what you’ll learn in my course on “Showing Up Attractive,” the companion course to “Sexual Aggression Mastery.”
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Dear Speed Seduction® Student,
It’s one thing to have a woman in your arms on the dance floor. It’s another thing when it’s a sexytime dance with some movin’ and groovin’ especially if that leads to doin’.
It’s yet another thing entirely to get that delicious dancer OFF the dance floor and onto the next chapter in your adventure together.
Check this out, excerpted from a Sarge report from one of my students:
> …Then I told her that I saw her out one the dance floor, that it looked like she was having a lot of fun out there. She said yes she was, so I told her to give me a couple of minutes and I would meet her out on the dance floor. She smiled and said ok.
> I continued with my conversation with my friends, then went to her with a smile on my face. After dancing for a few minutes I told her that I love dancing. She said she did too. I told her that dancing is fun, and when you are with someone (sp) that you want to keep dancing with even after the music stops.. its even better.
> She looked at me with a puzzled look and asked what I meant by that. I told her the music was too loud to have an exciting conversation like that, but she could meet me outside and I would tell her.
RJ here. Let’s dissect this.
First of all, he did fantastic by telling her to “give him a couple minutes” before he joined her on the dance floor. He didn’t chase her but showed he had something else going on. Good balance.
Next, let’s look at how he handled the conversation on the dance floor and how it got her doing most of the seduction work:
Finally, note how he segued into getting that delicious dancer off the dance floor. Both in terms of moving her to a quieter environment so he could use his voice to better effect, but also moving her to another location creates a sense of having spent more time with her. Classic move.
That’s how it’s done.
Peace and piece,
RJ
P.S. Especially in the dance club, waiting for signs she’s interested could be fatal to your Sarge. My brand new Sexual Aggression Mastery course cuts through all that and shows you how to close the deal with mastery.
Dear Speed Seduction® Student,
F@@k it to hell and back again, one more time.
I am so excited about the brand-new “Sexual Aggression Mastery” course that I am making available, for a limited time, an instant replay of the launch broadcast which gives you a great preview, plus answers top questions from our students.
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Peace, piece, and “see you” there,
RJ
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