How to pick up girls who are “hired guns” (PUA Style)
This website began when a student wanted to know how to seduce the pretty young girl at a coffeeshop . It seems that there are alot of misconceptions about the approach to attracting such a girl and so I set myself the difficult task to try to set the record straight.
She is a “Hired Gun” in the words of PUAs, that is a chick who is working in a role because of her beauty, use their looks to lure men in much like the sirens of Greek mythology (usually to spend money as opposed to their deaths).
This gives us a number of important considerations in the approach to seduce such a woman.
The following concepts of “Seducing a Hired Gun” can also be used to hook up with hostesses, bar girls, or even the humble coffeeshop girls.
1. Disqualify as soon as possible
Remember that hired guns are hit on all the time. It is an every day occurance, to the extent that it is part of her job. So to make sure that you are not just another horny loser, we should start by not being another horny loser. In her workplace, she will always have higher value than you (unless you are a big rock star) so hitting on her initially will put you in the same category as everyone other guy. And because this girl has a value than you, an indirect approach will work better than direct. Have a reason for being there other than a normal one, maybe one that also gives you more value than other guys. Claim to be a friend of the DJ or be scouting the place to hold an event. Something along those lines.
This does two things: it shows that you are not a threat, and it demonstrates that her usual “powers” will not work on you and so disarms her.
2. Reward and punishment (or Pain and pleasure!)
Now she knows you aren’t a threat and she might let her guard down. What you should do here is to get to know her as a “regular girl.” I say “regular” because in some hired gun situations such as strippers, girls have their alter egos with stage names (Misty anyone?) and a fake sexy personality to interact with douchebags.(I thought she was really into me??).
You can use an idea known in psychology as “operant conditioning,” which is that humans are more likely to do things that they are rewarded for and less likely to do things they are punished for, and thus involves the modification of voluntary or operant behaviour.
So in addition to the usual social interaction, you reward her for “regular girl” behaviour such as telling you her real name (maybe some light kino or validation) and punish alter ego behaviour (such as not taking her seriously). By the way, it should be noted while we are on the subject, that kino from a hired gun is an unreliable indicator of interest. It should be punished.
3. Establish one time only.
When you have broken down the shell of the hired gun, you should be having a normal fun conversation with a normal fun girl. As the conversation begins to flow, you can begin to introduce some light “meaningful” kino which can be escalated appropriately. It is helpful to try to establish a connection especially with commonalities (subjective and emotional) to demonstrate to the girl that this is a “one time only” deal. She will still logically be influenced by the implications of hooking up with someone through work and so she needs to be able to justify making an exception. Be that exception!
4. Demonstrate socially intelligent value (including the close).
When the interaction is moving towards the possibility of exchanging phone numbers or even going home together, it is important at this point to demonstrate social intelligence towards her situation i.e. it would be a big risk to her if she is caught being picked up at work and SHE COULD LOSE HER JOB. And no hook up is worth losing your job over. Sorry, you are not a beautiful and unique snowflake.
Mention this to her. Say that you don’t want to stop her doing her job. Calibrate the close. Figure out a fun, romantic way to exchange contact info. Get her to give you her name…I mean Facebook close her.(The other F close). Lead her into meeting you after her shift. Better yet, stay talking until she can get away and continue in a neutral venue.
This incidentally demonstrates your value, that you have experience with beautiful women who work for a living and that you are considerate to her needs.Not the drunk leery fuck who asks for her number in front of his mates.
That dear friends is just the tip of the iceberg. I have obviously skipped through much of the minutiae of regular game and stuck to the outline of the differences for this kind of interaction.
Email me with any questions.
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