How to use Chemistry.com like a true PUA!
After they pay money to a dating site, they are emotionally invested.
Okay, first off, you only get 14 days for free on this site. In my opinion, you will probably get 90% of what you want out of it in that time.
I find that being direct and to the point with what you want on chemistry.com is the best strategy. I don’t use many fancy openers or lines when it comes to meeting and attracting girls online I’m just up front about what I’m looking for.
I created an account there just last Wednesday. I have already setup 4 dates (I have already gone on 3 of them). I brought all of them to my place after the initial meeting spot, F-closed 2, Did everyone but F-Close the other one, the last date is tonight. I am cooking her dinner at her apartment for our first date!
With it being said that you should be direct, there is a bit of restraint you’ll need to display when chatting on these dating sites. If you message a woman and say “Hi, you are cute and I’m a pickup artist want to come over for a great night of sex?” I am thinking that will not work too great.
Another example of this is what I said to a chick today on chemistry.com . At first I tried to talk with her via the chat feature since she was online but the chat system didn’t work with my mac laptop. I sent her this message below, then immediately she texted me and I setup a date to cook her dinner at her place.
“The Chat thing I think was having some issues. You seem like a really easy person to talk to so let me be honest with you. I think you are polite, have a big heart, and are very attractive! I’d really like the opportunity to take you out for some coffee with conversation or dinner sometime. =) I just have this feeling that you’re a great person and I’d like to get to know you better.
You can message me back here or if you want you can send me a text at 555-555-5555″
Alot of PUA’s would not send this type of message because they would say that its AFC and you need to be more indirect then show interest later. Come on, Really? You are emailing a girl online at a DATING site. Just by being there she knows you are interested before she reads anything. You should be honest about what you want.
The example above is pretty typical of what I end up emailing after a few messages or based on the vibe of the situation. I am just very honest with what I want and what I am search for. I tell women I just got back into the dating scene after a break from women, that I might be looking for a relationship eventually, but right now I’m just dating. Then from there tell stories about my background (yes with some DHV spikes). I tease, and the go direct with telling them I want to meet them along with sending them my number.
This is pretty much my flow chart for how I do things on the dating sites:
1. Opening Message. Comment on the profile, be witty, and keep it short. I send a lot of these.
2. Demonstrate Higher Value, Build Rapport, Ask Questions for more Conversation — Then be direct and to the point with who you are and what you want.* (3-4 Paragraph or Two Sized Messages)
3. Say that you like her and you want to meet her eventually. Give her your number, and tell her to send you a text. *If she doesn’t then fall back to talking on chat/AIM/Yahoo messenger, rebuild rapport, then go back forward. This step usually isn’t needed.*
4. Send a couple of fluff text messages or a few minutes of fluff on the phone just to establish some more rapport and then ask for a date. You need to have something in mind. If you don’t get a date go back to telling DHV stories of your life build rapport, and try again sometime down the road.
This is not anything brand new to the PUA scene, but it works very very well for me! Keep in mind that I do this very quickly. If you are just signing up, the trial period is short. Don’t waste time. I don’t play phone games and wait a ton of time to message back. I can hear you now, “Doesn’t that look needy?” You sent her a message on an online dating site, get over it! Time to man-up and go after her! If you start playing games she might start thinking you are having second thoughts or not interested. Get while the getting is good! Time waits for no man.
Girls respond very well to this, and more often than not, they respond favorably. Keep in mind as you message women online to be more direct about what you want as far as a relationship goes, who you are, and that you want to meet her. There is no reason to be all secretive about it she knows why you sent her the message so don’t disappoint.
You can sign up here for 14 days free at Chemistry.com