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Back in June I wrote a post on the five best peacocking methods. In this post, I’ll show you exactly what I use in the field to peacock.

Peacocking accessories don’t have to be vibrant or obnoxious as described in the best-selling book, The Game by Neil Strauss. Styles may be able to pull off a cowboy hat or boa in a club but, it’s not for everyone.  It’s definitely not for me. I utilize subtle peacocking, an oxymoron I’m fully aware of. Instead of wearing colorful clothing, I pay attention to small details. Women have a keen eye for detail. My form of peacocking may not be obvious to men, but it sends a loud signal to women that I have my shit together.

I came up with my own form of peacocking after asking various women what they first noticed about a man. Their answers were completely unexpected. I’ve heard women mention clean shoes, well kept nails, and cologne as the first things they notice. A colorful cowboy hat may get a conversation started but could backfire if the accessory doesn’t coincide with your personality. If you’re shy, like me, giving you a pink boa won’t magically turn you into a conversationalist.

So if you’re like me and don’t want to feel like an idiot, peacocking with cowboy hats, nail polish and boas, take some tips from my favorite peacocking accessories.

Watches

Men don’t wear watches these days and why would they? Everyone has a cell phone or an iPod that can tell time. A watch these days is worn for style. My personal favorite is similar to this modern watch made by Guess. My particular watch has several gears in the background. It’s a perfect conversation starter. Women think it’s an advanced highly technological watch because of all the gears but they don’t do anything. It’s a façade that sparks their interest.

Rings

Without a doubt, my favorite peacocking accessories are my rings. I have two tungsten carbide rings and one ceramic ring I purchased from Jewelrypayless.com. I’ll wear one ring on my middle finger of my right hand whenever I go out. Rings are my favorites because of the best routine known to man, “The Ring Routine.” If you haven’t memorized it, drop everything you’re doing and tattoo this one into your brain. The ring routine lets you cold read a woman by the jewelry she’s wearing. At the same time, you’re demonstrating your high-worth with your own jewelry. I’ve used The Ring Routine dozens, maybe even hundreds, of times. If you take anything from this list, let it be rings.

Necklaces

This Pepper Pave Stone necklace by D&G has character. If you wear it with the top few buttons of your shirt opened, you’ll definitely get noticed. It’s accessories like these that work for you and not against you. When you wear a pink boa in a club you’ll constantly be defending and explaining yourself. When you wear something like this, it creates curiosity in women, encouraging them to approach you. Plus, what sophisticated woman would want to be seen with some jackass in a pink boa.

Shoes

Various women I’ve talked to have said shoes are the first thing they notice on men. The wrong pair of shoes can ruin an outfit, but the right pair of shoes can speak volumes about your sense of style. My shoe collection has been slowly multiplying since I’ve started my PUA journey. I have shoes for every occasion and venue to go with all of my outfits. When I first started, I would wear a worn out pair of dress shoes to clubs with a dress code. The shoes would get me in the door but wouldn’t get me anywhere with women. Even with an excellent outfit, the shoes made me self-conscious which would affect my interactions with women. Do yourself a favor and get a nice pair of dress shoes.

Blazers

One thing I’ve noticed in clubs and lounges in Los Angeles is how the clothes guys wear make them appear nearly identical. The standard uniform for men in LA is dark jeans and button-up shirts. If it’s not a button-up shirt, it’ll be those obnoxious Ed Hardy designer t-shirts. To separate myself from the clones, I’ll wear a dark charcoal or navy fitted blazer. I consistently receive complements from women whenever I sport a blazer. Plus, you can wear it with a nice dress shirt, a v-neck, or a regular t-shirt.

Yup, it's positive. This guy is full of shit.

Women have a way of subconsciously disqualifying men using tests. These subconscious tests are called shit tests. Women test men through snide remarks or revealing questions and filter out men with incongruent personalities. Simply put, women will give you shit and see how you react. Attractive women have plenty of options when it comes to men and shit tests allow them to quickly disqualify the incompatible ones. Common shit tests are, “I have a boyfriend” or “I’m a lesbian.” Your reactions to their shit test will communicate your eligibility as a suitor. If you can pass their little shit tests you’ll spark attraction and interest. Fail a shit test and you’ll quickly find yourself alone or even worse, in the friend zone.  I’ve had my share of shit tests with women but my recent test had me contemplating a retake.

This past Friday a couple of friends and I decided to try out a new club a few blocks away from my place. First thing I noticed when I walked in was the abundance of cougars. That bar must be a cougar sanctuary because they were everywhere. Eventually, some younger women started to fill the place. It was like any other night, a lot of drinking and mingling, except for one interaction that stood out from all the others.

We’re standing at the bar, when a pair of cougars approaches.  They ordered their drinks and stuck around. My friends are doing their thing with some other women when one of the cougars gives me a bump. I give her a dirty look then smile. She laughs, apologizes and continues talking to her friend. A few moments later, I intentionally bump her and it’s officially on like Donkey Kong.  I tell her we’re even and call a truce. After that we vibe for a while on the typical conversations I’ve learned to have with women.

My rules for conversations with women are simple. No boring questions. Keep it light and fun. Asking what she does for a living will never get you anywhere. Like David DeAngelo says, those types of questions don’t build attraction. They build friendly relationships.

We had an amusing conversation until the cougars stepped away for a bathroom break. I thought there was no chance she would be coming back so I rejoined my friends and forgot about her.

Not more than ten minutes had passed when I nearly got tackled. It was the cougar and her friend back for some more. Seeing as she came back, which was an obvious indicator of interest, I decided to escalate the attraction. But, I escalated too quickly. We were talking about her body when I decided to have a feel, a move that may have been too forward if it weren’t for all the flirting we had been doing.

Now this is where things went downhill. She wanted to make it clear that she wasn’t a “hoochie.” She then continued to say that men should always ask a women’s permission before doing anything. This was an obvious shit test that I didn’t recognize at the time. She even said men should always ask a women’s permission to hold her hand. I was dumbfounded. I thought I had offended her so I apologized and promised I’d never touch her again. At that precise moment, around midnight on December 10^th, 2010, attraction between the cougar and I, died.

Assessment

My biggest mistake wasn’t the kino, it was the apology. I went from confident to coward when I promised to never touch her again. If I really offended her she would have walked away to mingle with the dozens of other guys in the club. Instead she stayed and continued the conversation. Her shit test rattled me enough to kill the attraction instantly. What I should have done was continue the confident cocky-funny persona I had started with. Lesson learned. Cougars are dangerous deceptive creatures.